Legacy Estate Plannning Blog

Self-care has become a societal focus, especially during COVID-19. For those caring for aging loved ones, self-care can be challenging yet critical in providing quality care. Self-care practices do not have to be time-consuming. Small acts—like meditation, journaling, or simply enjoying a cup of coffee—can contribute hugely to a caregiver’s wellbeing. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help. Prioritizing self-care enhances the ability to care for others, and acknowledging one’s limits is also part of the self-care journey.

In a day at the beach, Dr. Judy Butler observes two different dogs with their owners. As the two pairs approach each other, Butler notices the distinct protective behavior displayed by each dog: one assumed an offensive posture while the other adopted a defensive stance. She uses this observation to reflect on different methods of protecting loved ones and emphasizes the importance of preparation against foreseeable challenges in life.

Dr. Judy H. Butler uses the analogy of an adventurous journey to explain the utility of planning for life and accepting its uncertainties. Some loss of control and unpredictability might cause anxiety, but it can also add excitement. Understanding the difference between anxiety and anticipation can enrich one’s life experience. She invites conversations on life and death, which can yield unexpected insights when approached as an adventure. This process is embodied in her work, “Closer to Closure: 12 Actions for 12 Conversations”.

The author discusses the power of storytelling, citing Maya Angelou’s belief in the agony of an untold story. They underline the significance of sharing our life narratives to keep traditions alive, embolden others and create a sense of self. Noting that our lives are stories in themselves, they encourage us to share these stories, like fond memories passed down by siblings, to keep our legacies alive. Concluding, the author introduces the ‘Guardian’s Gift’ time capsule – a tool to preserve and pass down one’s stories.

Renowned artist Pablo Picasso’s quote about leaving undone tasks highlights the widespread issue of willlessness, given that even he himself died intestate. His estate, worth millions and including various assets, took six years and $30 million to divide among six heirs. This exemplifies how our frequent habit of procrastination, often justified with reasons like cost or lack of time, can lead to detrimental consequences such as family dispute and confusion. The Guardian’s Gift, a legacy planning service, encourages individuals to overcome procrastination in creating their will and legacy.

Despite societal taboos, discussing death is essential for peace of mind, deeper connections, and practical readiness. Openly talking about death can alleviate fears, clarify end-of-life preferences, facilitate early planning, and lessen the burden on grieving loved ones. Despite discomfort and traditional avoidance of the topic, conversations about death should be encouraged to better prepare for this inevitable part of life.

A legacy plan is much more than a traditional estate plan; it is the encapsulation of one’s life, wisdom, and desires. Judy H. Butler, a professional who stepped in to help others through experiences learned from her own parental estate planning, emphasizes the emotional significance of recording loved ones’ memories and the desire of elderly individuals not wanting to be burdens. Butler’s mission, The Guardian’s Gift, aims to ease emotional decisions, caregiving choices, and provide financial security for families while preserving the essence of individuals’ lives.